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It’s Thursday. And today I’m taking a step back. Because that’s how I’m taking my next step forward.

For the last 6 months plus I’ve been trying to save the world. Or parts of it. All good intentions. Trying to balance everything, juggle the balls, keep those plates spinning. And I got caught up in it. I believed if I just did this one more thing, or tried this a little differently everything would fall into place. The world would be saved. And… I’d feel better. I’d feel validated. My expectations would be met!!

It has slowly dawned on me that there is more involved than just my expectations.

I can’t help people that really don’t want to be helped. I can’t really fix anything let alone anyone. I can only be a catalyst and support the process.

Ouch

I felt a little raw, a little exhausted, a little sad and a little angry. Oh come on who am I kidding. Not a little, a lot.

So I sat down and over time I wrote. Scathing thoughts about why I was right and things and others were obviously wrong. I knew the perspective was skewed and I didn’t care.

The other day I picked up my copy of Brené Brown’s Rising Strong again and opened it to where I’d left off weeks ago. I highly recommend this book by the way.

And then I realized it. I’d written my SFD (shitty first draft). The light came on and those dark scary and angry shadows faded away. I realized I’m “Rumbling” with my situation right now. And that’s exactly what I should be doing. It’s all good. Because “curiosity is a shit-starter. But that’s ok. Sometimes we have to rumble with a story to find the truth.”

It’s not funny or coincidental how the right things or people or animals show up at the right time if you are open and willing to receive, its magically wonderful. (And actually they show up anyway. It’s up to us to recognize them). A few days ago it was the book and I, thankfully, was open and ready to receive.

So today I took a step back and that was to let the world save itself for a bit and go back to my morning routine of me first. Yes. Me first. No guilt. No shame. No apology.

Because sitting here on my stoop with my dog, my book, a cup of tea and the birds singing is what I need to fill my soul so I can do what I do best. And that is being me. When I’m the best me I can be that’s when I make a difference in the way that meets my expectations.

So… one step back to take more steps forward. Sometimes that’s how the road is, detours can be beautiful things. In the end, it’s all good. It’s all in how you look at it.

Today I’m rising like air.

Copyright 2018 JFries/Rise Like Air

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Ebb and flow

Come and go

To and fro

Above and below

Friend and foe

Reap and sow

Learn and grow

Dedicated to two wonderful individuals who also form an formidable duo Debbie Hyde and David Durant of It’s All Good. Two people who have a practise of making their transitions absolutely amazing.  Here’s to going with that ebb and flow we call Life.

Cheers! And remember. It really is all good. It’s just in how we choose to look at things.

©️2018 JFries/Rise Like Air

Jewel, I love this job! You know, writing you every day.

Do you know how I got it?

I just started doing it.

And that’s all anything takes.

Magic follows,

  The Universe

Pause…

Reflect…

Absorb…

The truth contained in the note from The Universe via Mike Dooley  that arrived in my inbox yesterday morning was as simple as it was brief.

I just started doing it.

Magic follows.

I recognized the truth because as I reflect on the years gone by that’s how so many of my adventures, big or small, fanciful or serious began.

Adventures like

  • going after a job
  • starting my Rise Like Air blog
  • volunteering with Life Vest Inside
  • trusting myself
  • being more independent
  • parallel parking
  • starting a novel
  • public speaking
  • forgiving myself
  • gardening
  • painting
  • forgiving others
  • dancing
  • smiling
  • paying it forward
  • keeping the boundaries I set

That doesn’t mean the adventure we call life doesn’t have puddles and pot holes. The adventure is all about learning  and adjusting, growing and experiencing, gaining perspective and insight and so much more. Magical.

What if…

We believed

What if….

We risked

What if…

We tried

What if…

We just start

What if…

We just start doing “it”…

The “it” that attracts us…

The “it” that distracts us…

The “it that makes us smile…

The “it” we want to talk on and on about…

The “it” we are passionate about…

The “it” that ignites us…

The “it” that helps others…

What if…

That really IS all anything takes…

What if…

You really just have to start…

And what if…

Magic follows…

I mean really, how can it not? But you’ll never know unless you take the risk, take the plunge and begin, and let the magic unfold. After all, it’s all good. It’s just in how we choose to look at things. How are you going to look at today? What if…

©2018 JFries/Rise Like Air

As each woman realizes her power she transforms the world – from 2015 WomanSpirit Sourcebook, Patrice Wynn

What do you want to do?

Right now, today, tomorrow, with your time, with your life? Do you want to leave a legacy, relax, learn, travel? Make a difference? But how can you? Just little you.  How can you make a difference? Well…

Have you realized your power yet? 

 

Have you embraced it

Moulded it

Learned how to use it…

 

Do you appreciate it

Fear it

Crave it…

 

Will you reach for it

Believe in it

Trust in it…

 

It is Yours to Choose

To Own

To Realize…

Give yourself permission.  It really is all you need…

 

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Whether you are man, woman, child, adult, it does not matter who or what you are. Realize your Power and you will transform the world.

Rise Like Air.

 

©2018 JFries/Rise Like Air

Set your heart on fire

Seek those who fan your flames

Rumi

Credit J Fries 2018

There is beauty in the ashes of a heart that burned for what it loved

Ariana

One loving heart sets another on fire

St Agustine

Love is friendship set on fire

Look a little closer in those delicate eyes, her heart’s a wild creature and her soul’s on fire

– NR Hart

The most powerful weapon on earth is the human soul on fire

-Ferdinand Foch

Create what sets your heart on fire

It will illuminate the path ahead

©️2018 J Fries/Rise Like Air

We have now officially ushered out 2017 and introduced ourselves to 2018.

I’m not sure how old i was when I remember I expected to feel something different when I woke up after my birthday, or on New Year’s Day. After all something defining had occurred right? Another year older, another year past.

I realized then it wasn’t the magic of the clock turning to a new day, there wasn’t a wham bang sudden change. I grew another year older day by day and 2017 passed day by day like every other year. Today is just the day after yesterday. Just like every other day. It’s what we choose to do with that extraordinarily ordinary day that matters. Every one of them.

Some of us are bounding in to 2018 with smiles, hope, plans and attitude. Rock on. Make it your year. Fly! Learn, love, grow.

Sometimes it seems there is only hardship and sadness on the road ahead of us. But, in amongst the challenges life puts in front of each of us right now, may we also find our way to see the beauty, feel the joy, hear the music and be touched by the love hidden in each day that dawns before us.

And I say to you as well,

Rock on. Make it your year. Fly! Learn, love, grow.

Wishing you a blessed 2018! Every extraordinarily ordinary day of it.

©️2018 JFries/Rise Like Air

I love sitting in my reading nook under the stairs. I feel a bit like a glorified Harry Potter. Except I chose to make this my space. I didn’t get cast away under the stairs. Quite a difference there. Really, it’s all I have energy for right now with this lousy cold in my nose. Grateful that’s the worst of it. At least it’s not in my chest.

Feeling a little sorry for myself. Needed and wanted this week off so badly and then to be sick sorta sucks.

But I’m one of those annoying people that actually believes everything happens for a reason even if I don’t ever see the big picture. I really do. So I’m grateful for my cold even tho I don’t see the purpose and maybe never will. For one thing it’s giving me the perfect reason to do nothing except enjoy my new nook. Maybe that’s as simple as the purpose needs to be. Else I know I’d be running around

Which, by the way, my niece tried out the nook on her own over Christmas and liked! Made my day. So much better than the disorganized messy storage area it was before. It only took me about 12 years to get it ready. Some projects take a little extra love and time. And sometimes you just have to get off your butt and make it happen. A thought to take you out of 2017 and into 2018.

Happy Wednesday! Take time for you. Find your own nook and make it yours if you haven’t already.

©️2017 JFries/Rise Like Air

‘Tis the season to be jolly and giving. Some of us have just a few people on our lists and others have a list to rival the old man’s in red himself.

But even before the big day arrives, there’s a gift worth giving. And the first deserving person is…

you

Brené Brown talks about the power of permission slips when dealing or reckoning with emotions in her best seller “Rising Strong”. After all dealing with emotions can be difficult, something we’d rather avoid than face head on.

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The act of giving yourself permission to engage with your emotions in a situation is incredibly empowering.  On one hand it sounds so simple, but as Brown puts it,

“This work takes practice. Awkward, uncomfortable practise.” And by the way, you’re worth the gift.

Maybe it’s the neighbour’s annual party you dread.

I give myself permission to say no.

Or that new job offer in a different city

I give myself permission to feel excited and adventurous.

When you lose someone you love.

I give myself permission to feel sad and to grieve.

Maybe it’s after a divorce.

I give myself permission to feel afraid and lonely.

Or after losing a big business deal.

I give myself permission to learn from my experiences.

When a friend lies about you.

I give myself permission to feel hurt and angry.

Maybe before a first date.

I give myself permission to smile in anticipation and be myself.

Or after a first date.

I give myself permission to feel excited and good about myself.

Maybe after a promotion.

I give myself permission to believe in my abilities.

Or after a life altering diagnosis.

I give myself permission to feel afraid and hopeful.

 

So… grab a piece of paper and your favourite pen…

However and whatever you celebrate this time of year give yourself the gift of permission and may your spirits rise like air all year.

After all, it really is all good, it’s just how you choose to look at things.

©2017 JFries/Rise Like Air

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Have A Great Day

That’s usually how I sign my emails, end my phone calls.

But the other day I paused before I hit send.

Because I knew the person wasn’t having a great day.  Not even a great week, or month or year.  Not even a good one if you took the time to ask them, more importantly if you took the time to listen, and to maybe read between the “I’m ok thank you’s”.

Words. Those dang pesky things. Those letters we put together to try to convey our thoughts, ideas, beliefs and feelings.

I contemplated, what do I really mean when I say “Have a great day!”?

The dictionary defines great as remarkable in magnitude, degree, or effectiveness. I’ve come to realize that life is mainly about how we choose to perceive things, and that includes how we interpret “great” in our own reality.

For a new mom with her second baby a great day might be 2 children napping at the same time and an adult conversation.

When a loved one is hospitalized with a stroke a great day might be when they recognize you and can say your name again.

A parent with an autistic child may tell you it was a great day because their child hugged them for the first time in six months.

Someone grieving the loss of a loved one might say it was a great day the first time they woke up and didn’t burst into tears.

Someone living with cancer and undergoing chemotherapy has a great day when they don’t feel nauseous, have an appetite and feel strong enough to go out.

An unexpected visit can change a miserable day into a great day for a someone experiencing loneliness.

When losing someone to Alzheimer’s a great day is realizing today they remember you.

For someone struggling with depression, a great day is the day you feel hope again.

Great days.

They don’t have to be big.

There doesn’t have to be fanfare.

Sometimes to anyone else they can even be inconspicuous. Great days are a very personal thing. Great days are made up of tiny little special moments. We just have to see them.

No matter how you feel. Find your great. No matter how big, how obvious, unexpected or elusive. Find it. Make it if you must. Embrace it. So have a GREEEAAATTT day.

Because it’s all good.  It’s really just how you choose to look at it.

 

©2017 J Fries/Rise Like Air

It’s Sunday!!  We have made it through another week and another one is beckoning us. Take a moment for a deep breath and a personal high five!

For some of us it was an amazingly fantastic week. For some of us it was hell on wheels. Some were able to Rise Like Air and others teetered on the precipice edge.

There were tears of joy, success and happiness. Tears of frustration, pain and fear.

That’s what life is. Amazing ups and downs and lessons and perspective. It’s about choices and learning and trying.  It encompasses falling down, crawling and getting back up. But today I think it’s most about simply living and loving and liberating.

Today I’m making one choice. To smile. Maybe it will make a little difference. Maybe a big difference. Maybe someone else will notice, maybe they won’t. But I will notice.

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Have a fantastic Sunday. Make it yours. Do it your way.  No regrets, no apologies. No shame, no blame, no guilt. Just love, light and living.  And of course….

Rise

Like 

Air…

See 

Beautiful…

It’s

All 

Good…

 

©2017 JFries/Rise Like Air

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